A lot of you know that about 3 years ago I watched the DVD "The Secret". I have been able to maintain a very good grasp of its teachings and implement them into my everyday existence. However, just as so many others I suffer from a few not so rare conditions that I call NegativeFamilyMemberitis, ToxicFrienditis and BumsThatEmptyYourWallet Syndrom. The BTEYW Syndrome can be a combined with either of the other two conditions. These are all non-fatal conditions but they create a very unhealthy unhappy life for the victim that leaves them untreated.
In today's world it is so easy for these conditions to attack someone you know and then by association you become the victim. Physically, financially and emotional being drained by those around you can quickly turn your positive outlook and your positive efforts to very negative and bleak.
In an effort to remind myself that the only things I can change are myself and how I allow these conditions to affect my life I re watched "The Secret" this afternoon. In the DVD one of the fellows suggests writing a list of all the things that make us happy and that we are grateful for. Hence the title of the blog. For those of you who have not seen "The Secret" some of the things on this list may not be accurate right in this moment, but will be happening in the near future. That is the whole point of positive thinking and visualization ... to feel as if certain things are already true and to actually believe they are. So here is my list so far.
I Am So Happy and Grateful Now That ...
-Steve and I have a combined income of $200,000.00 gross per year.
-We have our dream home, huge comerical grade stainless steel kitchen, in-home theater with stadium style personal lounger setting for 15 adults and oversized beanbag seating for unlimited kids, enough rooms for all of our extended family and friends to visit at anytime, and a master bedroom suite would that would make even the most elite spa wish it were as nice.
-My mother owns her own home.
-My brother is responsible for himself
-I am 165lbs and a size 10-12.
-I have thick hair.
-Steve gets to play golf more then 3 times a week and is preparing for PGA Q-School.
-Steve wears a 34x30 pant
-I have my own craft room that is totally customized.
-Steve and I both have new cars
(those things will happen)
-I get to stay home and raise my child
-All of our bills are paid and we can still go out to eat if we wanted to
-I have a husband who lets me dream big and believes I will achieve every one of them
-My son is happy and healthy
-Jacob has grandparents that love and adore him
-We are able to afford any activities that Jacob wants to be involved in ... such as gymnastics and karate
-I am being a patient teacher for Jacob while we homeschool each other.
-I have friends who are brilliant that I can learn from.
-We are going on a family vacation to Disney World in less then 6 months.
-I own a successful business that keeps growing.
-I learned how to make amazing marshmallows at home.
-I have a fast internet connection.
-I am in a healthy happy relationship
-We have Heavenly Parents who have a plan for us
I'm sure I could go into more detail on all of these things and many more but I will spare you the time to read all that.
I just needed to put myself back on the right line of thinking again. I can not change how the people or the world around me act no matter how hard I try, but I can change me. That means a lot more than just my mental or physical body. When a family member won't go away ... I can change where I live (and not tell them). If that same family member or another keeps asking for money...Thinking in a positive helpful way knowing I can only affect change in myself. I can't make them stop asking ... I can change how much money I make so I can continue to help them. If a friend is causing undue stress or has a negative influence on my decision making ability ...I can change who I associate with. And finally I can change how I respond to others actions and the events of the world around me. The more I can find the positive in every situation and truly believe that I am deserving of achieving my dreams I will find myself surrounded with the people and things that make me most happy. Every thing else will disappear. No more non-fatal conditions.
I am so happy and grateful now that I have taking the time to start my list. :)
4 comments:
"Count your many blessings, see what God has done!" That's how the hymn goes. Every once in a while I try to offer a prayer in which I don't ask God for anything--just thank Him for who He is and how good my life is. It helps me to stay happy.
I'm glad you have a list. I'm sorry that people can be difficult--I sincerely hope I don't add to your difficulties. You are a great addition to this world. You are a great friend. I'm glad you're here.
To Anaise - I know I should have a serving heart and be cheerfully willing to help others no matter what ... However I am human and I have faults. One of them being that the more someone asks me for help the less I want to give it. I'm working on that.
You so rarely ask for anything and usually tell me no when I offer anything that it makes me want to give even more. I know that is backwards, but it is just how I work right now. Oh well.
I often watch your actions in life and use you as inspiration ... especially in regards to raising and teaching children.
I feel blessed to know you as well and feel the world is a better place with you in it. I'm so glad we are friends! :)
"amazing marshmallows"
Does that even begin to describe them?
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